Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Another Maid Saga...

You can't judge a book by its cover. Either I'm a poor judge of character or I would like to believe that everyone has good in them, rather than thinking that they are bad.

The maid was sent back to the agent on Sunday.

She is my second maid after my first one finished her contract and went home. This new one is 23, single, looks mild, meek and very quiet and has been working with me for nearly five months. She even wears the tudung when she goes out.

Though she is mild, meek and a very quiet tudung-wearing domestic helper, I'm begining to have doubts about her ability to retain and process information, as well as to perform some routine daily duties with a bit more meticulousness. How long should I train a new maid to get the ironing correct and smooth at least? Let's just abandon the idea of cooking for now. She can't even communicate with my son, because her personality is simply too quiet.

To cut a long story short, she has been using the handphone that is for home use and for going out with my son for her own personal use, to call a man that she is madly in love with back in her hometown. When an sms came from the man, and I was home that day, she denied vehemently that she didn't know who that was, and that was the first time such an sms came.

I called the number and told the guy on the other end that if he is not her father or her husband or her brother, and if there is nothing important, there is nothing to talk to her about.

I was angry for she has misused my personal property as well as my trust. But when I told hubby I wanted to send her back, hubby advised me to think first, as it has implications on us especially on our child care arrrangement before the next maid arrives. I can't take a transfer maid immmediately until my current one gets a new employer.

So she stayed another day on Sunday, eventhough I have asked her to pack.

On Sunday, when we went out, we reminded her to take care of the house and not go anywhere. I was still annoyed, but I know I had no choice. By the time we came back at about 1 plus in the afternoon, she was not at home. Hubby immediately said, "once she comes back, we'll send her back to the agent." We felt disbelief that this mild, meek and quiet tudung-wearing girl is daring enough to defy simple orders.

She came back 5 minutes later, and looked extremely horrified and started crying dramatically. She said she was merely downstairs buying bread as she was hungry. There was food in the house, and she needed to go down to buy bread. Her reasoning was she was afraid to eat my food which I had never, not even when I was angry, denied her of food. She dramatically bowed down to my feet to ask for forgiveness. I just told her, "I don't want this nonsense. Go and eat your bread."

We sent her back immediately. From a light backpack, hers is now full to the brim with extra plastic bag. I don't want to be picky by asking her to return the clothes that I had given her, but if I had known the truth of what she had done, I might have just done that.

She left her diary. And it contains all the details of how she had been trying to get in touch with that guy since February. The guy is not exactly her boyfriend but who she is madly in love with, and whom she had given her virginity to and finally she managed to contact him on 6 March on my handphone. And I have been fooled by her for more than 2 months and yet she was crying and denying vehemently that was the first time ever the sms came. What a load of bull!

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